Everything happens perfectly in the right timing!
Well, this actually happenned to me today. I was going to be at an organization formal meeting that is held every Mondays. However, this Monday is totally different because I know the guy that I currently like,S, will be there. Yet, I did not expect too much out of it as he might not even come to the meeting.
Surprisingly, he did, we met at the hall's lobby and talked a little bit. After that we went upstairs together and then BAMM!! my ex, M, was right there straight accross from us, looking straight at us. Weirdly enough, I talked to M today and asked him if he would be at the meeting, and he said no.
To me, this is an example of a perfect timing.
So, I ignored my ex and acted like I was close to that guy and started talking abt his classes and such. Then, I finally came by and said hello to my ex. :-p. It was just such a perfect coincidence because my friends were there and they get to see my ex's reaction to me and the guy i liked.
Then the story goes...
M saw me with S and he was standing with two of our mutual friends, G and H, and the two friends were looking at each other and winked their eyes to each other, then my ex wondered what was going on. One of my friend, H, looked at him and said, Isn't that obvious?? And He goes, well yes, it is kind of obvious (That the guy with me was attractive). And he goes, "I am tall too, I am just not that built!"... Can somebody figure out what this mean?? Why would he compare himself to the guy I currently like??
Well anyway, I think that the timing could not be more perfect and I could not chose more attractive guy to be seen by my ex!
Lala
Monday, September 27, 2010
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Differences are the beauty of a relationship.
"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for."
I talked to a girl today and we talked about relationship. This girl is currently in a year and a half long relationship with a man that she thinks might be the one. They love each other and they compliment each other very well. They are both very passionate about the environment. I have known this girl for five years. I know pretty much how she is and what she is like.
Ever since she was in the relationship with this guy, she was very happy and she really feel secure with him. However, these days he had been lacking in the want to see her and to visit her. She felt really sad today that he did not want to come to her home town and he did not want her to go over to his town either.
She asked me, why is he like that?
I answered: He is simply a guy. Guys are sweet like sugar at the beginning, they always want you, but as the time goes, there will be ants trying to eat all the sugars away and it is the female's job to keep the ants off the sugar that he is giving her. When a guy is given everything he wanted, there are no more mystery in the relationship and he doesn't see it as an exciting relationship anymore.
Another fact about guys is that they are HUNTERS. Do NOT take his role as the hunter, because he will find no fun in it and he wont be attracted to you. When you are with a man, sometimes it takes a lot of patience and practice to keep a man attracted to you. When you are tempted to call him and "beg" him to hang out with you or do some stuff with you, sometimes, you need to know that he wont always say yes and you need to understand and you need to have something else to do if he says no. This will show that you are independent and even though you want them, it doesn't mean that you are needy of him.
Boys are completely different that girls. Girls fulfill their needs by being with their man at all times. Yet, for boys, they tend to like their own space and it will be better for them to see you one in a while because they will appreciate the time that they spend with you.
The top reasons why men leave women are:
1. Neediness and not needed enough
2. When someone or something became more important then the partner.
I talked to a girl today and we talked about relationship. This girl is currently in a year and a half long relationship with a man that she thinks might be the one. They love each other and they compliment each other very well. They are both very passionate about the environment. I have known this girl for five years. I know pretty much how she is and what she is like.
Ever since she was in the relationship with this guy, she was very happy and she really feel secure with him. However, these days he had been lacking in the want to see her and to visit her. She felt really sad today that he did not want to come to her home town and he did not want her to go over to his town either.
She asked me, why is he like that?
I answered: He is simply a guy. Guys are sweet like sugar at the beginning, they always want you, but as the time goes, there will be ants trying to eat all the sugars away and it is the female's job to keep the ants off the sugar that he is giving her. When a guy is given everything he wanted, there are no more mystery in the relationship and he doesn't see it as an exciting relationship anymore.
Another fact about guys is that they are HUNTERS. Do NOT take his role as the hunter, because he will find no fun in it and he wont be attracted to you. When you are with a man, sometimes it takes a lot of patience and practice to keep a man attracted to you. When you are tempted to call him and "beg" him to hang out with you or do some stuff with you, sometimes, you need to know that he wont always say yes and you need to understand and you need to have something else to do if he says no. This will show that you are independent and even though you want them, it doesn't mean that you are needy of him.
Boys are completely different that girls. Girls fulfill their needs by being with their man at all times. Yet, for boys, they tend to like their own space and it will be better for them to see you one in a while because they will appreciate the time that they spend with you.
The top reasons why men leave women are:
1. Neediness and not needed enough
- Man are a creature that has big ego. the job of the woman is to fulfill his ego. They like to be needed but when the girl is to needy, it is the biggest turn off for them. If girls are smart, they will find a way to keep them around. They need to find the healthy balance between the needy levels.
2. When someone or something became more important then the partner.
- This reason is very hurtful. I have a personal reason of why this is hurtful, but none the less, this is probably one of the most hurtful reasons. You think that you were the only one until you discover that there is someone else out there that is more important than you.
3. When the attraction level dies.
- This is not only physical reason, but also a result of Jealousy, insecurity and neediness. Also, when a guy gets everything they want, they will just not be excited anymore. You will be able to see it, the roses will come to an end, no more "i love yous", and no more "I want to see you."
These are just some of the signs, but most of the break up reasons started with three key things: Jealousy, Neediness, and Insecurity. so GIRLS!! Control yourself and your man. Set a standard for him too meet, so that he has a Goal. Guys tend to strive for their goals, when you put standards for him, he knows what to strive for and he will get it if that makes you happy.
Good luck with keeping your man with you and don't do my mistakes.
Ciao!!
Lala
Thursday, September 23, 2010
ME, MYSELF, and I
Hello World!!!!
I know this is not my first post, but I should Introduce myself to all of you. My name is ______, and I am originally from Jakarta, Indonesia. I currently go to school in the USA. This is my 6th year in the USA and I am loving every second of it. I am pursuing a master degree in IS and so far it is not easy. Anyway, I started writing blog this week and I believe I am what they called a "rookie".
I love to cook. Cooking is definetely my passion. I love to come up with new recipe and also cooking for people that I love and care about. In my culture, we usually show appreciation with food and also even in business, we usually make and close a deal with food. Not necesarrily cooking, but we can go out to a nice restaurant and such. I do not mind to cook for anyone at all if they ask and they treat me well (not like someone that they can use and throw away ;) )
Lastly, I am starting a new single life after breaking up with my first love of 3 years. It has been almost 4 months since that happened. I am trying to get him out of my head since he is already kind of with another girl (a mutual friend of ours). However, I always see him around campus and sometimes, it just reminded me of how we used to be. But, i kept on telling myself that i dont need him back and i shouldnt want him back in my life. What is done is DONE. (for now anyway)
So, Guys, welcome to my blog and I hope you enjoy following it :D
Lala
I know this is not my first post, but I should Introduce myself to all of you. My name is ______, and I am originally from Jakarta, Indonesia. I currently go to school in the USA. This is my 6th year in the USA and I am loving every second of it. I am pursuing a master degree in IS and so far it is not easy. Anyway, I started writing blog this week and I believe I am what they called a "rookie".
I love to cook. Cooking is definetely my passion. I love to come up with new recipe and also cooking for people that I love and care about. In my culture, we usually show appreciation with food and also even in business, we usually make and close a deal with food. Not necesarrily cooking, but we can go out to a nice restaurant and such. I do not mind to cook for anyone at all if they ask and they treat me well (not like someone that they can use and throw away ;) )
Another thing that you should know about me is that I am a happy person :D, i try to see everything from the positive side and try to get a lesson out of it! I think it is an important life skill that people must have in their life. Life is short and only once! So, live it to your fullest!
Lastly, I am starting a new single life after breaking up with my first love of 3 years. It has been almost 4 months since that happened. I am trying to get him out of my head since he is already kind of with another girl (a mutual friend of ours). However, I always see him around campus and sometimes, it just reminded me of how we used to be. But, i kept on telling myself that i dont need him back and i shouldnt want him back in my life. What is done is DONE. (for now anyway)
So, Guys, welcome to my blog and I hope you enjoy following it :D
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Life lessons
LIFE....LIFE...LIFE
Life is such a simple word but yet its definition is very complicated. There are so many things in life that we have to do and usually none of them are easy. When people say "Life is good!" they only refer to that point of life, not the whole life. Well, I am a 21 year old college student that knows nothing about life. I had a boyfriend since I was 18 (the starting point of my "life") till I was 21. This guy was the guy i loved so much that i had given pretty much 100% of myself to him. There were bumps on the 3 years relationship, but I just did not get awaken by them. Therefore, it ended up with a break up. Though it was tough, I actually learned a lot from it.
Well, since then, I kinda felt that I should tell my friends about it and the updates without thinking whether they care or not, whether they are friends or "friends". I knew I should have not done that, but of course I did it anyway and again, I got slapped in the face by my own move. One of my friends actually came up to me and told me maybe I shouldn't be too trusting to people around me. Sometimes, even though they act like they care, but really, they don't. They might just be faking in order to know the insight of my story and tell everyone the opposite of what they told me.
This to me just sounds like DRAMA...and I hate drama when I am involved in it.
So, I had to let this out to someone, so I talked with one of my good old friend at home. V, my old good friend at home made me realize even more how important observing people's characteristic is. We have to use our instinct to get closer to someone and actually know whether they are the people that you wanna tell or they are the people that you wanna avoid. I feel so shallow after all this conversation and I feel that I need to build more of my personality.
I think I got into a long term relationship in such a young age that whatever we would've done won't ever work anyway. I had no principle, personality, or my own happiness in order to build a relationship.
At the age of 18, I was not the wisest person on earth. I thought that relationships were easy and it would come naturally. But, really, it requires hard work and dedication. When I think back about it, I didnt even have my life figured out yet, how could i think that I could share my life with someone else. Now that I am single and free, my best bet is to relax, back off on dating and figure out my life first before I can get in to serious dating. There are a lot of life that I get to catch up from missing it for about 3 years.
I am not saying that my ex was not a good bf. He was a great bf. really great in fact. But, I missed my life because I chose to. I chose to follow him instead of my dreams and goals. I wish him a great life ahead of him and this is my time to actually lay off and catch on with my dreams :D...
Lala
Life is such a simple word but yet its definition is very complicated. There are so many things in life that we have to do and usually none of them are easy. When people say "Life is good!" they only refer to that point of life, not the whole life. Well, I am a 21 year old college student that knows nothing about life. I had a boyfriend since I was 18 (the starting point of my "life") till I was 21. This guy was the guy i loved so much that i had given pretty much 100% of myself to him. There were bumps on the 3 years relationship, but I just did not get awaken by them. Therefore, it ended up with a break up. Though it was tough, I actually learned a lot from it.
Well, since then, I kinda felt that I should tell my friends about it and the updates without thinking whether they care or not, whether they are friends or "friends". I knew I should have not done that, but of course I did it anyway and again, I got slapped in the face by my own move. One of my friends actually came up to me and told me maybe I shouldn't be too trusting to people around me. Sometimes, even though they act like they care, but really, they don't. They might just be faking in order to know the insight of my story and tell everyone the opposite of what they told me.
This to me just sounds like DRAMA...and I hate drama when I am involved in it.
So, I had to let this out to someone, so I talked with one of my good old friend at home. V, my old good friend at home made me realize even more how important observing people's characteristic is. We have to use our instinct to get closer to someone and actually know whether they are the people that you wanna tell or they are the people that you wanna avoid. I feel so shallow after all this conversation and I feel that I need to build more of my personality.
I think I got into a long term relationship in such a young age that whatever we would've done won't ever work anyway. I had no principle, personality, or my own happiness in order to build a relationship.
At the age of 18, I was not the wisest person on earth. I thought that relationships were easy and it would come naturally. But, really, it requires hard work and dedication. When I think back about it, I didnt even have my life figured out yet, how could i think that I could share my life with someone else. Now that I am single and free, my best bet is to relax, back off on dating and figure out my life first before I can get in to serious dating. There are a lot of life that I get to catch up from missing it for about 3 years.
I am not saying that my ex was not a good bf. He was a great bf. really great in fact. But, I missed my life because I chose to. I chose to follow him instead of my dreams and goals. I wish him a great life ahead of him and this is my time to actually lay off and catch on with my dreams :D...
Lala
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