I talked to a girl today and we talked about relationship. This girl is currently in a year and a half long relationship with a man that she thinks might be the one. They love each other and they compliment each other very well. They are both very passionate about the environment. I have known this girl for five years. I know pretty much how she is and what she is like.
Ever since she was in the relationship with this guy, she was very happy and she really feel secure with him. However, these days he had been lacking in the want to see her and to visit her. She felt really sad today that he did not want to come to her home town and he did not want her to go over to his town either.
She asked me, why is he like that?
I answered: He is simply a guy. Guys are sweet like sugar at the beginning, they always want you, but as the time goes, there will be ants trying to eat all the sugars away and it is the female's job to keep the ants off the sugar that he is giving her. When a guy is given everything he wanted, there are no more mystery in the relationship and he doesn't see it as an exciting relationship anymore.
Another fact about guys is that they are HUNTERS. Do NOT take his role as the hunter, because he will find no fun in it and he wont be attracted to you. When you are with a man, sometimes it takes a lot of patience and practice to keep a man attracted to you. When you are tempted to call him and "beg" him to hang out with you or do some stuff with you, sometimes, you need to know that he wont always say yes and you need to understand and you need to have something else to do if he says no. This will show that you are independent and even though you want them, it doesn't mean that you are needy of him.
Boys are completely different that girls. Girls fulfill their needs by being with their man at all times. Yet, for boys, they tend to like their own space and it will be better for them to see you one in a while because they will appreciate the time that they spend with you.
The top reasons why men leave women are:
1. Neediness and not needed enough
- Man are a creature that has big ego. the job of the woman is to fulfill his ego. They like to be needed but when the girl is to needy, it is the biggest turn off for them. If girls are smart, they will find a way to keep them around. They need to find the healthy balance between the needy levels.
2. When someone or something became more important then the partner.
- This reason is very hurtful. I have a personal reason of why this is hurtful, but none the less, this is probably one of the most hurtful reasons. You think that you were the only one until you discover that there is someone else out there that is more important than you.
3. When the attraction level dies.
- This is not only physical reason, but also a result of Jealousy, insecurity and neediness. Also, when a guy gets everything they want, they will just not be excited anymore. You will be able to see it, the roses will come to an end, no more "i love yous", and no more "I want to see you."
These are just some of the signs, but most of the break up reasons started with three key things: Jealousy, Neediness, and Insecurity. so GIRLS!! Control yourself and your man. Set a standard for him too meet, so that he has a Goal. Guys tend to strive for their goals, when you put standards for him, he knows what to strive for and he will get it if that makes you happy.
Good luck with keeping your man with you and don't do my mistakes.
Ciao!!
Lala
